My hair is growing back, but not evenly. Around the neck and ears there was some scraggly, longer hair. The operative word is "was". I went to a barber shop yesterday and had the neckline trimmed. Really looks pretty good now. In fact, I have worn my hair short for so long, (short for so long?) now there is an oxymoron, that friends accept it as a choice.
The ladies in town, beauticians, wanted $22- $25 to trim my inch of extra neckline, so I stopped in at the barber shop where my husband goes for $10 a cut. The mature barber was alone in his shop, sitting in his chair and reading the paper. He was a little perplexed at first, but after explaining why I looked the way I did, we eased into the proper places, me in his chair and him placing the bib around my neck. We talked weather, hunting, cancer, weather, hunting and more cancer. Business had been slow due to the hunter's first weekend and the warm weather. When he finished I looked a lot better and vowed to quit wearing hats and thanked him and gave him his $10 fee. Talking about wearing hats, I have a heck of a time not bumping into things because of the bills on the hats.
Talking about bumping into things. My equilibrium is lousy. I think I have radiation brain damage. If I start to tip over, I will just keep going unless there is something to hang onto. Then I have this knee that really should be replaced but I hate to spend that much of my allotted time healing a surgery for a new knee. I haven't replaced my glasses yet either, so I can't always see where I am going. Do I use a cane? NOOOOOOOOOOO, but I have a hiking stick with a compass on it and I am thinking of using that. It looks so much more cool, and I would always know what direction I was going, whatever difference it would make.
I am still struggling with the reality of death...if not now....later. I really don't want to die. Funny, I figured it would be as easy as going under surgical anesthetic, and wouldn't you think I would put more trust in a God than an anethesist? Nope, I can see the medical person and talk with him and he can tell me how long I'll be out etc., etc.
I sometimes think I am not going to die, at least not just yet. "What a bunch of baloney. Those docs just guess at time lines anyway and if I don't believe it, then how can it be...Of course, it has to be someday. Doesn't see right does it?
Many of you picked up on what you interpreted to be sadness, depression, etc. in my last blog, but the biggest emotion I've been dealing with is anger. I have come to the conclusion that no one really ever loved me. It was not that I was unlovable, but that those who should have did not know how. I also picked people for security and financial support rather than love, so I got that stuff.
At any rate, I am moving out of the funk...into some more pondering. I gotta say though that if even God is not unconditional in his love for me, then what hope is there anyway.
So I say to myself, God loves me no matter what! What does his love mean for me? Well,first of all I got a shot at this earth experience and there were six beautiful babies who loved me till they couldn't. I have been blessed with the joy of life, even in the midst of incredible adversities and losses. I love being here and I hope I didn't waste too much time lamenting what might have, could have or should have been. No kitty yet. Still looking. I want a tuxedo, black and white, short hair female kitten or a white calico female.
I belong to a book club and I recommend that kind of membership to everyone. I have read more books that I would never have looked at because we take turns choosing our reads. This last meeting, six women, six great women, got to laughing so hard at our feeble jokes etc., that I felt I had been to therapy when I left. Laughter...is such a release of negative stuff...try it some time.
27 Degrees last night. Hell has not frozen over yet, so beware and have a great Halloween.
Thursday, October 28, 2010
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
saying goodbye to autumn
Boy, I've been in a funk all day. Actually the weather is so beautiful and fall is drifting away into November. Suddenly I don't want to die and I don't want fall to die. I'd like to just do a freeze frame for a few days, then I'll be back to reality, but for now I want to look forward to another fall, and another and another.
Sydney and I are going in two different directions. He is going to cardiac rehab three times a week and learning ways to take better care of himself for a brighter future. He is meeting new people and gaining some self confidence and losing some weight.
Me, I can't get a grasp on future. No point in shopping for new clothes, no point in joining any organizations. Partly because I don't have a lot of energy, partly because I just don't want to invest in anything, or anyone new right now. Don't even feel much like reading. I supposed I'm depressed, but I think it is temporary.
I have had a couple of auditory hallucinations. One like the old woodpecker, but the last one sounded like a symphony of garbage cans in the alley. And the other day I had that tingling sensation in my arm, shoulder and face and lost my ability to make words for just a couple of minutes. I go on the 8th of November for CAT and MRI, but the docs are not impressed with my side effects. I was trying to wean off of steroids again and after I lost my words I got up and took 2 of my steroids. No further occurrences.
I applied for a couple of jobs that I was overly qualified for and did not even get a "no thank you". I think it is age related. It feels like I'll just spend the rest of my days in my recliner. Sydney is happy with that lifestyle. He dutifully turns on the halloween lights each night and lights his candles and in the daytime he puts pieces in a jigsaw puzzle between chores.
I am hoping a change in the weather, colder and maybe even snowy will put me in the nesting mode and I will begin to think of apple pies etc., but I hate to bake and have Sydney eat stuff he shouldn't be eating. Me, I can eat anything I want to.
Now to those of you who care, please don't try to fix me with cards and phone calls etc., I will be fine in a day or two, but I felt like complaining today.
Sydney and I are going in two different directions. He is going to cardiac rehab three times a week and learning ways to take better care of himself for a brighter future. He is meeting new people and gaining some self confidence and losing some weight.
Me, I can't get a grasp on future. No point in shopping for new clothes, no point in joining any organizations. Partly because I don't have a lot of energy, partly because I just don't want to invest in anything, or anyone new right now. Don't even feel much like reading. I supposed I'm depressed, but I think it is temporary.
I have had a couple of auditory hallucinations. One like the old woodpecker, but the last one sounded like a symphony of garbage cans in the alley. And the other day I had that tingling sensation in my arm, shoulder and face and lost my ability to make words for just a couple of minutes. I go on the 8th of November for CAT and MRI, but the docs are not impressed with my side effects. I was trying to wean off of steroids again and after I lost my words I got up and took 2 of my steroids. No further occurrences.
I applied for a couple of jobs that I was overly qualified for and did not even get a "no thank you". I think it is age related. It feels like I'll just spend the rest of my days in my recliner. Sydney is happy with that lifestyle. He dutifully turns on the halloween lights each night and lights his candles and in the daytime he puts pieces in a jigsaw puzzle between chores.
I am hoping a change in the weather, colder and maybe even snowy will put me in the nesting mode and I will begin to think of apple pies etc., but I hate to bake and have Sydney eat stuff he shouldn't be eating. Me, I can eat anything I want to.
Now to those of you who care, please don't try to fix me with cards and phone calls etc., I will be fine in a day or two, but I felt like complaining today.
Thursday, October 14, 2010
the worried well
I have been wheezing some, especially at night - thought I found some pinkish blood in the sputum in the morning, twice, so made an appointment with radiologist who didn't take me very seriously and didn't even listen to my lungs...He thinks as soon as we get a good freeze the allergens will go away and so will my wheezing and he agrees with me that the bloody nose I had the other day was source of the tiny bit of blood in my sputum. I go back in Nov.for the six month MRI and cat scan. So I am not the worried well tonight, just well.
Almost had a cat. The lady on the phone said "yes I do have a nice little calico kitten. I live in Ft. Benton if you could come to get her. Yes, she is short haired."
So friend and I went to Ft. Benton. The kitten had the most beautiful blue eyes, but beyond that she was either a mutant, or a mongrel. Black and brown hair, all mixed together. You know the type, you've seen them in alleys. Long hair, matted and brown and black mixture, with maybe one or two little white blurs. Well this kitty had a white blur on her nose, which helped and her feet are white, but one leg is a yellow tiger strip! I brought her back to town and friend 's son set the kitty up at their old farm and he loves her. Thank God. Haven't decided if I am going to try again very soon.
Yesterday when I got up at 7am, the sky was partially grey and a breeze was waving the trees that still have leaves. The atmosphere reminded me of an October day in 1952. I was visiting a ranch family at the foot of the Rocky Mountains. Their daughters were 10 and 12 and I was 14. We saddled up three horses and gathered some cooking utensils and food supplies and rode into the wilderness in search of a box canyon the girls had been to once before. We went deeper and deeper into the forest until there were no more trees. The landscape was rough rocks that had fallen from the horseshoe shaped canyon so we got off the horses and led them through the rocks, which was not a good idea either. The box canyon had a spectacular waterfall that dropped into a grassy meadow. That is where we fried our bacon and egg breakfast and bathed under the waterfall, never giving a thought to Grizzlies! My childhood was much like that.....the hell with risks. We then rode up to Swift Current dam and the basin was pretty empty so we rode around in that. I recall that as one of the most wonderful October days of my life, with the exception of Pascha's birth, which we will celebrate tomorrow, 33years.
Boy, this dying stuff. Last spring I was pretty much in an acceptance phase and had thought through a lot of spiritual concerns. Now I have come full circle. I don't want to die, and the last time I thought of extinction I almost started crying. Sometimes I think I should have died during the initial preparation period. I wonder if those men in Chili have any of those second thought of survival feelings now that they are out of the hole of hell.
I have not been hanging onto God very hard, but I sense that he has not let go of me.
Sydney has started the rehab portion of his therapy and he likes it. I am surprised. He likes the monitored exercise and the lectures about diet changes. He 6old me the other day that he is sleeping like a baby and gives credit to the surgery, but I think it is the Zoloff. Funny how the two of us transit through things. I guess we are still developing our relationship. We make our beds together, take turns with dishes and cooking and have become a team...after 34 years of acting like a couple of oxen yoked unevenly. But don't get too dewy eyed because we will probably be fighting again next week.
This week, all of my sons have a paying job!
So the economy is better in our family.
Doc. says the woodpecker in my ear is probably a hallucination caused by some of the swelling in the brain. Nice to be "normal". Hope you are too.
Almost had a cat. The lady on the phone said "yes I do have a nice little calico kitten. I live in Ft. Benton if you could come to get her. Yes, she is short haired."
So friend and I went to Ft. Benton. The kitten had the most beautiful blue eyes, but beyond that she was either a mutant, or a mongrel. Black and brown hair, all mixed together. You know the type, you've seen them in alleys. Long hair, matted and brown and black mixture, with maybe one or two little white blurs. Well this kitty had a white blur on her nose, which helped and her feet are white, but one leg is a yellow tiger strip! I brought her back to town and friend 's son set the kitty up at their old farm and he loves her. Thank God. Haven't decided if I am going to try again very soon.
Yesterday when I got up at 7am, the sky was partially grey and a breeze was waving the trees that still have leaves. The atmosphere reminded me of an October day in 1952. I was visiting a ranch family at the foot of the Rocky Mountains. Their daughters were 10 and 12 and I was 14. We saddled up three horses and gathered some cooking utensils and food supplies and rode into the wilderness in search of a box canyon the girls had been to once before. We went deeper and deeper into the forest until there were no more trees. The landscape was rough rocks that had fallen from the horseshoe shaped canyon so we got off the horses and led them through the rocks, which was not a good idea either. The box canyon had a spectacular waterfall that dropped into a grassy meadow. That is where we fried our bacon and egg breakfast and bathed under the waterfall, never giving a thought to Grizzlies! My childhood was much like that.....the hell with risks. We then rode up to Swift Current dam and the basin was pretty empty so we rode around in that. I recall that as one of the most wonderful October days of my life, with the exception of Pascha's birth, which we will celebrate tomorrow, 33years.
Boy, this dying stuff. Last spring I was pretty much in an acceptance phase and had thought through a lot of spiritual concerns. Now I have come full circle. I don't want to die, and the last time I thought of extinction I almost started crying. Sometimes I think I should have died during the initial preparation period. I wonder if those men in Chili have any of those second thought of survival feelings now that they are out of the hole of hell.
I have not been hanging onto God very hard, but I sense that he has not let go of me.
Sydney has started the rehab portion of his therapy and he likes it. I am surprised. He likes the monitored exercise and the lectures about diet changes. He 6old me the other day that he is sleeping like a baby and gives credit to the surgery, but I think it is the Zoloff. Funny how the two of us transit through things. I guess we are still developing our relationship. We make our beds together, take turns with dishes and cooking and have become a team...after 34 years of acting like a couple of oxen yoked unevenly. But don't get too dewy eyed because we will probably be fighting again next week.
This week, all of my sons have a paying job!
So the economy is better in our family.
Doc. says the woodpecker in my ear is probably a hallucination caused by some of the swelling in the brain. Nice to be "normal". Hope you are too.
Thursday, October 7, 2010
no kitten yet!
haven't found just the right kitty yet, but I will. We drove to Libby last weekend and had a great visit with son, daughter-in-law and grand kids. Grandson is sporting a cast on his broken arm and we went to watch his team win their football game. He thinks he will play again next year. One never knows about expectations and changes. I would not have bet on that boy ever joining any kind of team. He is even thinking about becoming an altar boy! Granddaughter, who is into jitterbug and high heels, has her fancy dance clothes hanging on the wall in her room. Pretty attractive.
Beuford, our Beagle, has been suffering from separation anxiety. According to daughter-in-law, who has the patience of Job, Beuford wined all afternoon when we left him and if they put him outside he bayed!
I had some separation anxiety this past weekend. Our houseboy, the oldest son, decided we could fly on our own and he went back to Oregon. He is working as a cook and also helping with some sound equipment in Astoria. He calls and tells us how green and lush everything over there is. I think he is glad to be home in Oregon. I am learning to run the vacuum again and husband has been picking up apples and plans to mow the lawn. The oldest could not have picked a better time to visit us, what with husband's heart surgery etc.
I went to the oncologist yesterday and he says all is quiet, no spread of lung cancer. I feel pretty good, except tired. I guess I might be tired the rest of my life? My upper back and across my chest aches like I have had a cough and made those muscles sore. Doctor says it is from the radiation and other patients have described the same sensation, so guess I'll stop complaining out that. Also he said the blurred vision is probably from the steriods, so I am in the process of weaning off the steriods again. I have a lot of tiny bleeding points and bruises, from the blood thinner I take. I told the doc. I would rather have leaks than clots so we are keeping me on the same dose of coumadin (rat poison you know).
I can't decide about memorial services. I keep going from religous to secular to nothing. I'm tired of the whole role of dying person, so I don't talk about it much anymore. I saw a job on the internet I might apply for. I don't know how an employer would feel about hiring a "short term" employee, but who knows which employee is the shortest term.
We are without a phone because I blew a gasket. We are going back to Bresnan, on the 18th. I made the wrong assumption that Bridgemax was a triple bundle. It is not. They are internet, the TV would be dish and the phone was vonage (they are in N. Carolina!) so it got out of hand with the phone company who has no technitions in Great falls and they expected to walk-talk me through the intricate wiring! After the third trip up the stairs I lost my ladyhood and told them to come and get their crap. Then the bank tried to charge me $27 for an accidental overdraft, never had one before, so I talked them into erasing that charge. EGAD! Bad Week.
Beuford, our Beagle, has been suffering from separation anxiety. According to daughter-in-law, who has the patience of Job, Beuford wined all afternoon when we left him and if they put him outside he bayed!
I had some separation anxiety this past weekend. Our houseboy, the oldest son, decided we could fly on our own and he went back to Oregon. He is working as a cook and also helping with some sound equipment in Astoria. He calls and tells us how green and lush everything over there is. I think he is glad to be home in Oregon. I am learning to run the vacuum again and husband has been picking up apples and plans to mow the lawn. The oldest could not have picked a better time to visit us, what with husband's heart surgery etc.
I went to the oncologist yesterday and he says all is quiet, no spread of lung cancer. I feel pretty good, except tired. I guess I might be tired the rest of my life? My upper back and across my chest aches like I have had a cough and made those muscles sore. Doctor says it is from the radiation and other patients have described the same sensation, so guess I'll stop complaining out that. Also he said the blurred vision is probably from the steriods, so I am in the process of weaning off the steriods again. I have a lot of tiny bleeding points and bruises, from the blood thinner I take. I told the doc. I would rather have leaks than clots so we are keeping me on the same dose of coumadin (rat poison you know).
I can't decide about memorial services. I keep going from religous to secular to nothing. I'm tired of the whole role of dying person, so I don't talk about it much anymore. I saw a job on the internet I might apply for. I don't know how an employer would feel about hiring a "short term" employee, but who knows which employee is the shortest term.
We are without a phone because I blew a gasket. We are going back to Bresnan, on the 18th. I made the wrong assumption that Bridgemax was a triple bundle. It is not. They are internet, the TV would be dish and the phone was vonage (they are in N. Carolina!) so it got out of hand with the phone company who has no technitions in Great falls and they expected to walk-talk me through the intricate wiring! After the third trip up the stairs I lost my ladyhood and told them to come and get their crap. Then the bank tried to charge me $27 for an accidental overdraft, never had one before, so I talked them into erasing that charge. EGAD! Bad Week.
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